The experience of requited love is not something that we often talk about, but every love seeker is familiar with it. It is commonly described as a one-sided affection that is not reciprocated. Sometimes this is not just related to a person; it can also be the disappointment of a deferred dream, business or vision we may have for our lives. This unrequited yearning most times occurs in those immature stages of the love quest, where the understanding of love is limited. Oftentimes we are not able to move beyond this discomfort – we become fearful or allow our hearts to become hardened. Yet some of us do persevere, and allow this experience to lead us to a greater love…
Love is the ultimate quest of all mankind; whether we would like to admit or not. So when we give our all for it and with very little return, it can be a very painful experience. At that point we usually can’t see past the discomfort. Sometimes the feeling is even interpreted as not being deserving of it; but all it really means is that one is not consciously connected to the source of love.
He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.
- 1 John 4:8 (KJV)
Since God is love, whenever there is a conscious disconnect from Him, we tend to crave the love of other people or place our faith in other things. In other words, our focus is more on the “feeling” of love or on obtaining something tangible; basically, placing the fate of our joy and happiness in the hands of someone or something other than God. But we are told in to set our affection on things above, not on things on the earth. (Colossians 3:2).
(For the LORD thy God is a jealous God among you)
- Deuteronomy 6:15 (KJV)
God will not allow us to rely on anything or anyone except Him. Many people have a problem with accepting this, because they cannot grasp why God would be jealous of them. However, remember God is also spirit (John 4:24) and we were created in His image (Genesis1:26). Therefore, whenever our consciousness (heart, soul, strength and mind) is disconnected from Him, we are no longer in-tune with our true nature; but trapped in the bondage of fear. The good news is the word of God tells us that perfect love casteth out fear (1John 4:18) and love is perfected in the love of God in Christ Jesus – through Him we are made a new creation – we are given a new life, an opportunity to be whole, in Him.
“In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him.”
- 1John 4:9 (KJV)
When the lawyer asked Jesus in Luke, chapter 10, “what shall we do to inherit eternal life,” Jesus’ response was: “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbor as thyself.” The Bible also tells us that to abide in His love, is to keep Jesus’ commands (John 15:10). This means we have to trust and rely on Him to guide, protect and supply us with all that we need to be whole. Like Einstein stated about energy – that it “cannot be created or destroyed,” one can state the same about Love (God) – it just is. And it is only when we have managed to embrace and to continuously grow in pure Divine love (which is the love of God in Christ Jesus) that we are able to know that there is nothing and no one that can take it away from us. It is also then that we are able to deeply and fearlessly experience true love with another and obtain victory as we bear all other fruit – joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22).
“For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate me from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
About the writer:
Kaysha Sahai found great comfort and inner healing after she began applying and meditating on God’s word. Her love and reverence for the word of God and fascination with the mind-body-spirit connection were the inspiration behind her written testimony, “The Biblical Path to Wellness.”